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Developing High Self-Esteem In Children

Children’s Hospital’s Department of Psychology presents the following tips aimed to help develop high self-esteem in children through both words and actions. Self-esteem is how your children feel about themselves. When basic needs are met, self-esteem is higher.

Every Child Needs To Feel Lovable

  • The expression on your face, your body language and the tone of your voice should give your child that feeling.
  • Show an interest in things that are important to your child.
  • Remember what it was like to be a child and see things from his or her point of view.
  • Take time to listen and talk with your child and encourage him or her to communicate with you.
  • Take time to enjoy being a parent.

Every Child Needs To Feel Worthwhile

  • Look at your children when you talk. Talk to them at eye level and use words they understand.
  • Children will know you love them even when you are too busy to stop and talk if you tell them you will be with them as soon as possible, and remember to do so.
  • Do not compare your child unfavorably with brothers and sisters or friends.
  • Do not try to satisfy your own ambitions through your child’s achievements.
  • Provide opportunities for your children to grow independently by giving responsibility and privileges as they earn them.

Every Child Needs To Feel Success

  • Recognize your child’s effort with praise given sincerely.
  • Put goals within their reach.
  • Recognize that your child must have some challenging goals.
  • Let your child feel the satisfaction of her own accomplishments.

Every Child Needs To Feel Important

  • Discuss with your child things which are important to you as a family.
  • Help your child feel confidence by praising for jobs well done and by helping learn through their mistakes.
  • Value your child’s opinion and give it consideration.
  • Help children learn to carry their share of responsibility as family members.
  • Appreciate and enjoy your child so he or she can appreciate and enjoy others.

Every Child Needs To Learn To Interact With People

  • Give your child the opportunity to meet people outside the family.
  • Help your child to adjust to disappointments.
  • Help your child develop skills in many areas of living.
  • Give examples of courtesy and consideration for others.

If you have concerns about your child’s self-esteem, a physician or psychologist may be able to help.

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